Last updated: 05/1/2019
Author: Addictions.com Medical Review
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It can be the hardest thing in the world for a parent to hear from a child that they need addiction help. But there are many instances where a person must tell their mother or father about the concern for their wellbeing and the desire for them to seek treatment. Here are some tips that can help you you can effectively tell your parent you want them to get drug addiction treatment.
The most important advice you can follow when having this conversation is to stay calm. Your parent will most likely become uncomfortable, and possibly even offended or angry, if you tell them your feelings on this matter because they raised you and it will be hard for them to see you as an equal. In addition, even if what you’re saying is true, it will not be easy for them to hear because they will most likely not want to quit. Therefore, if you promise yourself that you will stay calm, it will prevent the conversation from escalating further.
If you begin to feel yourself becoming upset, it may be helpful to step away from the conversation and to try and revisit it at a later date. It can be very hard to help your parent understand that you are concerned for their safety and wellbeing in this sense, but staying calm will help to prevent any serious damage as well as saying things you do not mean, therefore negating the conversation in a sense.
Hire an Interventionist
Hiring a professional interventionist can also help your case when you talk to your parent. This individual may be able to do most of the talking, which can help shift some of the burden off you and also show your parent that the situation is serious. Your mother or father may also be more willing to listen to a professional who is not their child.
If you decide to speak to an interventionist or counselor before you talk to your parent, ask them for information about treatment options that could be beneficial. Having someone in your corner can make the entire process much easier to go through.
According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, “The path to drug addiction begins with the voluntary act of taking drugs. But over time, a person’s ability to choose not to do so becomes compromised.” This is why your parent will require treatment to get better, and in order to get them to agree to this help, you will often need to set certain boundaries.
Your parent may be living with you or you may be giving them money, as drug addiction can cause individuals to lean heavily on their loved ones. Telling them if they do not seek treatment, you won’t be able to continue helping them in these ways is often necessary to help them understand the seriousness of the situation. If they live on their own, you may need to tell them that you won’t be visiting until they receive the help they need.