Alcoholism is a disease of families affecting nearly one out of every three marriages in some way. The lasting effects that alcohol can have on the drinker and those who are closest to him or her are not only devastating, they can be downright damaging beyond repair. But there is help. Alcohol addiction treatment can help you to learn how to overcome your dependence on alcohol while also providing tools that you can use to repair your relationship with your spouse and potentially save your marriage.
What If I Don’t Get Treatment?
You may be wondering, “can’t I just save my marriage without getting alcohol addiction treatment help?” “Do I really need treatment that bad?” “Will it really help me to restore balance and happiness in my marriage?”
All of these questions are valuable. People struggling with an addiction to alcohol will often exhibit a number of negative behaviors including telling lies, cheating, or acting out in anger. And over time, all of these actions can lead to great distress on a marriage, especially if your spouse doesn’t share in your drinking activities.
If you don’t seek help for your addiction, the slow wearing away at your relationship with your loved one could deteriorate to a point in which there is no more room for repair—and you don’t want that do you?
How Treatment Helps
When you enter rehab for an addiction to alcohol, you will learn how to cope with the underlying issues that caused you to abuse the substance in the first place. Now this alone may not restore your marriage to its pre-alcoholism state of happiness, but it’s a great starting point and it’s a necessity of your recovery.
AA and other 12 step methods of treatment will help you to recognize the need to heal your relationships. Treatment will help you to learn HOW you can heal those personal relationships that mean so much to you. Here’s how:
- You’ll learn to love yourself first—because you can’t possibly love someone else if you don’t first love yourself.
- You’ll learn that you can’t expect things to happen overnight, the same way that you didn’t become an alcoholic overnight.
- You’ll learn that just like your recovery from alcoholism is going to take hard work and time, so too with your relationship with your spouse.
- You’ll learn how to recognize the appropriate actions and behaviors that will help to restore trust in your marriage—many of the same actions and behaviors will be necessary for you to restore trust in yourself as a newly sober individual.
The Family Disease Impact
Hard work, dedication and plenty of time in rehab will help you to come to terms with the fact that alcoholism is a family disease. But how will this help you to restore or mend your marriage? Part of the treatment process will be for you to take part in active counseling and therapy sessions with your spouse or loved one.
There’s a reason that alcoholism is called a “family disease.” It’s because it affects every aspect of the family—the spouse, the children, the brothers, sisters or loved ones—anyone close to the addict can be negatively impacted by the addiction. Most alcohol addiction treatment programs will provide family therapy sessions as just one of the many pieces of the rehabilitation and recovery puzzle.
If you can’t get your loved one to actively participate in your recovery, consider asking your counselor or therapist to talk to the individual. There’s a good chance that the pain which has been endured as a result of the alcoholism is too much for the individual to cope with alone—and, although not always the right choice, the immediate choice is to avoid the situation and walk away.
Family therapy sessions can help you to realize how your addiction impacted the people you care about—and this can go a long way in helping you to remember to remain sober in the future. Likewise, counseling allows your family members to actively heal themselves too.
Find Treatment for Alcohol Addiction
If you or someone you care about is suffering from alcoholism, don’t give up—help is available to you and your marriage could still be saved. Alcohol addiction treatment programs will help you to conquer the negative effects of your addiction, restore balance into your life and your marriage, and re-establish a sense of emotional trust that’s necessary for any relationship to thrive.
Just like you can overcome addiction, so too can your marriage—with professional help. Broken relationships can be mended with time, treatment and support. For help finding a treatment program, call 800-654-0987 to speak with a counselor who will assist you in determining the most effective treatment option for your needs. Don’t be afraid to call, our helpline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week—one call could turn your marriage, and your life, around.